Thought for the Day- True Love

True Love values the relationship  

far above personal pride.....

Is Fighting bad?

 

When I was first dating I made the mistake of assuming that just because we were both Christians that we would automatically be free from fights or arguments. We had never had a fight during the first few months of our relationship and people kept commenting that "just wait!!! You'll start fighting soon, or at least until after you get married"  

I thought that this was awful!! I was so "sure" we would NEVER fight or argue. In fact I was so determined to prevent a fight from ever happening that I always gave in and never let my boyfriend know when I was hurt or upset by something he did. 

That was probably the stupidest thing I ever did. 

You see, while I may have avoided fights and arguments, I was letting bitterness breed deep down inside. And bitterness is far worse then a fight. 

Thankfully a good friend of mine answered my long and teary email about my feelings and told me that........ fighting happens and its okay, as long as you forgive each other in the end. 

Let's face it, you are taking two completely different people and having them try to get along. They both have different likes and interests. They both have different opinions. Disagreements will come. 

 

 It's how you handle them that matters!  But that's a future post!! 

~Rebecca

Manners Make a Difference!

 

Manners make a difference in any relationship, especially in marriage!! 

Just think about this for a minute... What happens when someone says thank you to you? 

You feel appreciated right? And you know that not only did they notice what you did, but this person thanking you also took the time to tell you they appreciate what you did for them, even if it is small. 

I remember one evening I was washing dishes after a meal. My husband was feeling sick so he was resting on the couch. Half way through my dish washing he came into the kitchen carrying some dishes I had forgotten and placed them on the counter. I said "Oh, thanks dear I forgot those!" as he walked out of the room.  A few moments later Justin returned and gave me a big hug and told me that it meant alot to him that I took the time to say "thanks", especially while he was not feeling so great.  

We both try to say "thank you" as often as we can, it does make for a very sweet relationship!

~Rebecca

Welcome to this blog!

Welcome to "The Tale of the Four Brides" blog! 

Some of you may be wondering, "Why four brides? How are you all connected?" 

Well, apart from the fact that we all went to the same college and all the guys were friends since their freshmen year, there is a photo.


This photo was taken during the college Valentine Banquet during our senior year in 2011. Justin and I were engaged, and the other three couples were courting.  We didn't think anything was special about this photo until after the other three couples were engaged. Our weddings were all within a year of this photo.

I found the photo and sent it to the other brides-to-be laughing about how neat it was that we were all engaged and soon-to-be-married, and how we all happened to decide to sit at the same table.

One by one we got married, and by the time of the last wedding the story of this photo had gotten around. The wedding photographer for the last wedding was the same photographer of the banquet photo. When he heard the story he was very excited...and so we got more photos!!







These photos are very special to all of us!
A little while after this wedding, I started to get the idea of sharing our stories with my readers! I am working on this "Tale of the Four Brides" blog, that I plan to update weekly regarding courting, dating, relationships, singleness, friendship, and newly wed advice and ideas. I hope to also include a "Wedding Helps" section.

I hope to start soon!!


God bless,
~Rebecca